A pregnant woman’s body undergoes many changes, which can be unsettling both to her sense of self and sexual identity. In the first trimester, your breasts become enlarged, which may be welcome or not along with your growing belly. Questioning your
perceptions of yourself and your desirability is very normal. It can be helpful to consciously relax and let go into these many transformations as Nature’s plan miraculously unfolds. Know that you are beautiful as you are creating life. You are literally stretched in a very good way to become more loving towards yourself in every respect and in relationship with your partner and baby. This is the ideal time to take care of yourself and to receive all of the love that you need.
Pregnancy and sexuality are very much positively linked as lovemaking creates your baby! Sex during pregnancy is safe until the baby is delivered unless your doctor asks you to refrain for medical reasons. Both physical and emotional closeness will enhance your well-being. Expecting couples need to express love, tenderness and reassurance towards each other as both are undergoing many psychological changes, while moving towards new roles of parenthood. Make sure to provide times for intimacy and stress relief. Nonverbal give and take can be shared through touching, stroking, frequent eye contact and more slowed down lovemaking (in the third trimester). Sexual positions may need to change in order to feel more feel comfortable and not put weight directly on your stomach. I inform women to buy a wedge for their backs and to experiment with spooning and other positions. Some pregnant women have more sexual arousal than normal because of pressure on the uterus and sexual organs, which can heighten arousal or not.
Open up to your radiance and sensuality with new expressions of your sexuality!
This video reminds us of the complete joy that babies experience and can share with us.
From early childhood on, I was convinced that I was adopted, although looked exactly like my dad, with no rational basis for this view. My awareness of lifelong feelings of abandonment with a strong sense of not really belonging to my real parents eventually led me to my own field of prenatal and perinatal psychology. In my doctoral program, when asked to get my birth history, the light went on. I had a difficult birth and was separated from my mother with a six week hospital stay. This important fact was never discussed with me. There had been no opportunity to bond with my own parents or them to me, which is why we all felt like strangers to each other. No repairs were ever made which could have saved me from unnecessary imbedded anxiety. Resolving these early issues over time gave me the gift of self compassion. Also, my nervous system relaxed for the first time in my life. The events that surrounded my birth had been completely overwhelming. I was not given the opportunity to slow down and to integrate my earliest experiences until I was an adult. The baby part of me could finally feel loved and wanted by my adult self.
Being born should be one of the greatest moments in life. If you have a traumatic beginning, full of interventions and interruptions, there may be stored emotional wounding until it can be resolved. Many of us experience a traumatic birth, which may or may not have been preventable.
My greatest joy is that now I help babies, kids and adults heal from their gestational, birth and early life traumatic imprinting. I want everybody to feel be freed of early shock and trauma that they received. This process of repair is an easy one with infants but more therapeutic remediation is required with adults. You can have the gift of a great start in life with re-patterning and choice.
Premature births are rising at an alarming rate in the U.S, 36% in the past 25 years. Being born prematurely reduces the time that the baby has to grow and develop. It is the major cause of infant death and is associated with developmental delays, mental retardation, and mental health issues. Studies show that even a few extra days in the womb can make a huge difference in positive outcomes for the baby.
What do women and their partners need to know? First of all, you can avoid many of the causes of prematurity, including smoking, exposure to environmental toxins, and drug and alcohol use. Ask your doctor about microbiogical screening in early pregnancy to treat hidden infections, including of the vagina, kidneys and bladder. If you have chronic illness such as hypertension, diabetes, or lupus, you need to monitor them carefully. Your risk of premature birth also increases if you are African-American, under 18, or over 40.
Today, many couples use in vitro fertilization (IVF) to conceive. A common practice has been to implant several embryos, which often results in multiple births. Unfortunately, these children are at a much higher risk of premature birth. A recent study from the March of Dimes highlights the risks of multiple pregnancies and prematurity associated with IVF. Please read it if you’re considering fertility treatments.