Try Conscious Parenting
We are entering a new era in which we realize the tremendous impact that parenting choices and early experiences have on even the youngest infants, who deserve loving and responsible parents.
Conscious parenting represents a paradigm shift as mothers and fathers wake up to the idea that they can think deeply about how they want to raise their children, and take full responsibility for their parenting styles, and behaviors. The primary goal of conscious parenting is to change yourself in order to parent your children with awareness and love. As parents, we often operate out of fear or from limiting beliefs that we haven’t examined. We may unconsciously repeat detrimental patterns that we learned from our own parents. How were YOU birthed, nurtured, talked to and disciplined? Conscious parents are willing to examine their own parenting histories, be their authentic selves, recognize that they make mistakes, and make repairs — always with the goal of building trust in the parent-child relationship. Parents who take this approach see positive outcomes in their children’s behavior, their own personal development, and family harmony. Here are the steps to becoming a conscious parent:
- Gain insight into your attitudes, behaviors, and past programming about parenting in order identify your personal story which may be influencing your mindset.
- Set your specific intentions as a parent. What are your goals? What do you envision as your primary roles: disciplinarian, teacher, protector, problem solver, and motivator?
- Practice mindfulness. This means being present to your child who is your reflective mirror. Five minutes spent with complete attention is better than an hour of being “half there.” Something as simple as paying attention to your breath and slowing down your breathing can help you center in your body to calm stressful situations.
- Discover and accept your child’s unique personality and gifts. From the earliest age our children are independent beings. We can’t make them be who we want them to be. We need to allow them to unfold at their own pace.
Click here to read my longer article on this subject in the Late Summer 2009 issue of St. Louis Kids magazine.