In the News
Today I read Carolyn Hax’s column about a couple with an eight-month old son who are very unhappy in their new parenting role. They made a very painful disclosure that “parenthood is not for us.” I am glad that they reached out to this columnist for advice with their secret. Who honestly feels that they are ready for this role? Contemporary American society neither values mothering, nor educates for it. This has upset me for years. I myself felt totally unprepared for motherhood 30 years ago. This is why I trained as a coach/clinician to be able to offer the kind of support that I needed long ago. Hax gave excellent advice, urging the parents to seek professional help. The mother may indeed be suffering from postpartum depression. However, no matter what the cause or causes, these parents need to be encouraged that this phase of life with their baby is very taxing emotionally and physically, and will get better as they find tools and resources to become better parents.
Many parents today are raising young children with little family support. Let’s envision a new world where both parents and babies are valued. We need more family connections, community support, education and professional resources. Parenting is a journey that should be honored. When parents don’t feel they’re alone, parenting can be rewarding and enjoyable. It does “take a village” to raise a child.
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